Domestic Disturbances
Posted on 
February 18th, 2010 by 
frgavin
PATRICK FAGAN
The culture of the traditional family is now in intense competition with a very different culture. The defining difference between the two is the sexual ideal each embraces.
The traditional family of Western civilization is based on lifelong monogamy. The competing culture is “polyamorous,” normally a serial polygamy, but also increasingly polymorphous in its different sexual expressions.I hope there is elegance in the simple distinction between the ideals that distinguish the two cultures: monogamy and polymorphous serial polygamy, or “polyamory” for short.
Between these two cultures lie the welfare state and its operational bureaucracy. By and large, the culture of polyamory embraces the behavioral bureaucracy, while the culture of monogamy has increasing disagreements with it. This is understandable and unavoidable when the differences between the two cultures are examined.
Opposing Cultures
The culture of monogamy and the culture of polyamory differ profoundly in their assumptions on the way society functions. Here are some of the differences:
monogamy is infused from top to bottom with the sacred, in personal, family,
community, and national life. Worship of God is frequent and assumed. The culture of
polyamory tends much more to hide religion, even to suppress it in all things public. It
worships God less and demands that religion be private.
polyamory views freedom as freedom from any constraints upon sexual behavior.
the good that is to be pursued, are paramount; in the culture of polyamory, the will
to do what one likes is paramount.
be known, while the culture of polyamory tends towards a relativist and
ideological understanding of truth—that reality results from an imposition of the will.
polyamory favors moral relativism.
culture of polyamory.
culture of polyamory protects by prescribing programs and ensuring outcomes.
freely available to everyone. The culture of polyamory, having less of a floor, constantly
increases prescriptive and regulatory detail, telling people more and more how they
must act.
legitimate goods of one’s choice (and they are myriad), but those of the culture
of polyamory are designed to guarantee particular outcomes for everyone.
 In the culture of monogamy, men not only are anchored, they are required to be so. In the culture of polyamory, women are the anchors, while men can drift (or be cast adrift) as desired, and they do so in very large numbers. |
The constitutional state was the product of a monogamous
culture. It could never have emerged from a culture of
polyamory because it assumes responsible citizens.
The expanding social welfare state is the product of
the culture of polyamory, and it is increasingly hostile
to the culture of monogamy. It creates less responsible
citizens.
because laws, stated clearly in the negative (”Thou shalt
not”), require minimal regulatory interpretation.
The culture of polyamory, through programs and
policies aimed at outcomes and safety nets, enumerates
what must be done, not only that which is not permitted.
bureaucracy. The culture of polyamory, designed as a safety net not only for the
unlucky but also for the unrestrained, increasingly relies on social welfare programs to
rescue its adherents from the effects of its form of sexuality. Without this net, the
culture of polyamory would fall to pieces of its own weight and disorder.
child is protected, and the next generation, the future of the country, is the main
focus of the society’s work. For the culture of polyamory, the present welfare of adults
is the main focus.
the unborn, the handicapped, and the elderly. In the culture of polyamory, about
one-third of unborn babies are aborted, and the handicapped and elderly are unwelcome
and increasingly vulnerable to early “termination.”
polyamory, the traditional, natural family is just one option among many and is often
considered a nuisance because of its claims to special difference and superior
effectiveness.
and wives, through the free and deliberate focus of their sexuality. In the culture of
polyamory, which treasures sexual freedom or license, such sexual constraint by men
(or women) is not expected, nor, in fact, is any attempt to foster such constraint
acceptable, for that would be the antithesis of the main project of the culture of
polyamory: polymorphous sexuality whenever desired.
the kind of male they most decry: the sexually and physically harassing,
the abusing and abandoning male. Being the natural cost of its defining project,
these and related dysfunctions justify and necessitate more safety nets.
culture of polyamory, women are the anchors, while men can drift (or be cast adrift)
as desired, and they do so in very large numbers.
to devote their time to the tasks of motherhood and the men more likely to be the
sole or main source of family income. The culture of polyamory is much more androgynous,
its main focus being equality of outcomes for both men and women in the workplace and
in the home.
culture of polyamory is sterile and contracting.
polyamory is very expensive.
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